A few days ago I went over my life and I looked back at #relationships I realized every man that had been in my life was simply horrible. I have dealt with the worst of them, I have dealt with physical and emotional abuse and my life being put in danger by a few. The control issues and manipulation, I have never known a good man until 5 years ago. He ain’t perfect and fact is that made him even greater in my eyes, this one taught me many valuable lessons and pushed me out my comfort zone I wouldn’t be the leader I am today if it wasn’t for him. Thank you JLC!!!! On a whole higher level, see with the bad there will always come the good and I am grateful to know my ACE. I believe in showing respect where it is due and a woman should honor a good man. Thank you ACE for being a teacher too, one who taught me valuable lessons. Grateful for you!!!! And it gives me hope. As I wait for the One, I will wait with patience and never settle for less than because of this great man I still hold hope and a better view. That good men do live, as a woman you cannot go looking for the ONE you simply have to WAIT!!!!
I have had to endure a lot of pain wanting badly to have that love back that I give. As a girl child growing up without a father, I was never taught what a good man looks like. I believe everyone is born with a purpose, and no matter the road there are valuable lessons. And I understand God sent this man to be my teacher, to show me what a good man looks like. The journey with my ACE wasn’t easy, but he taught me how to forgive in truth and how to let LOVE win no matter what it looks like. He taught me how to endure, long suffering, loving someone from your heart and soul and honoring the divine connection and forever friendship.
I genuinely know who I am a woman with a awesome heart. Imperfect, have flaws. But, I know I will be blessed with the best. Just when I lost hope on any good man existing, I learned from you. A man that I am grateful to Know, and until the end of time ACE you know how much I’ll always love you.
Sad part is I once knew men like R.Kelly and I once placed the blame off on my dad for not being there. A girl child needs her father so much that it is ridiculous, a father teaches a girl child what she deserves. I wondered why everyone else had their father, and I couldn’t have mine? I dealt with a lot of neglect and being pushed aside as if I didn’t matter, and that pain caused me to search for a love that never existed and that died back in 1999. I hated that man for years, and I promised I would never cry when he died. Why would I cry for a man that was barely ever there? I don’t know what it is, maybe it is the connection kids share with their parents no matter what due to birth. But I was broken that day the man that help give me life was gone. And I didn’t get the chance to ask him my so many how come? I was 14 when my dad died and here I am at 33, I will never birth a child into this world unless I am sure of the child father. Father’s be there for your kids especially your daughter, be the best good loving role model possible. You are molding her and preparing her, your true love and guidance will be her teacher of what she deserves in a man. I humbly ask that it be good and admirable, lead and guide her properly so she’ll never run into a R. Kelly.
A girl child needs her father for so many reasons so she won’t grow older and search for that void. So she will be stronger in the mind, and know what to stay away from. A father teaches his daughter the proper love, that good Love so she won’t run into the pretender. The pretender that pretend to love her, just to get into her mind and manipulate and control her. A pretender will find a young girl weakness and prey on it, knowing what he wants it to use and control her for his own personal gain. I have learned throughout life, the hurt people hurt people. Some men do it intentionally, and some men do it unintentionally. This is more than enough reason the girl child needs her father, and she needs him to show in action what genuine love is. And when she knows that genuine love, she’ll never accept anything less than the best.